Don't Worry About Things You Cannot Change
I believe, life is too short to worry about things you cannot change, I really believe that is good advice for those who have been given away by their mother at birth and or like me was put in an orphan home by my father at about 20 months of age after mother, sister, and a brother perished in a house fire.
No doubt such things as these does have a big effect on us and it can be hard to come to terms with.
But it is a fact, no matter how much we worry and or think on them, we can not change one thing that has happened in our past.
In saying this, I am not saying don't ever go back and see what you can find out about a birthmother or father, I'm just saying, please don't let the things of the past destroy you life. I think if a person wants to try and find out things about birthmother and birthfather is a good thing.
For I know of the empty spots that be inside of us from not knowing our birthparents, plus the feeling of being rejected, I suppose cuts the deepest wounds within us.
As for me I found my help in my faith in God and how He takes care of those who love Him, Romans 8:28. And that is my suggestion, look to God for help, He has been much help to me.
Which for me, there is no way of going back and finding my mother, for she did die, but as for my birthfather I never had a longing to meet him. When he took my brother, my sister, and me and placed us in that orphan home after that tragic event I just have never once wanted to meet him nor cared little about gaining knowledge about him.
In the 90's I did gain knowledge about him, but I found that throwing his children away went right along with the kind of person he was. He lived for self, lived for what he wanted to do, and made sure that nothing got in his way of doing those things he loved to do.
I found this out from was many family members who I met in the 90's. Now it was nice meeting all of them, it did feel in empty places that were within me.
I even met one of my birthfathers sisters, and she was a joy to meet, but she was nothing like my birthfather, in fact she had raised my birthfathers youngest son by his first marriage. For you see when his first wife died, he threw the 5 children born of that marriage away, the youngest being 6 months of age.
She did not speak very highly of her brother, my birthfather, but rightly did not want to talk of him much, but did speak of her other 2 brothers who were nothing like by birthfather.
So if you want to find out about your past, go for it. But please don't let it ruin your happiness during the present time. I know the hurt and pain that can be inside of us, but we should not let it rule our life, for there is just no way we can change what has happened, but we can go forth and make sure we never do things to hurt our children as we have been hurt. That was the though I had when I first looked in the eyes of my daughter on March 22, 1970. That my daughter would have a father who would always love her, be there for her, and never hurt her as my birthfather hurt me.
At 58 years of age, I can say that God can take the things that happened in our past and work them out for our own good, if we will only put our faith in Him and let Him do do.
May God Bless,
Jerry
No doubt such things as these does have a big effect on us and it can be hard to come to terms with.
But it is a fact, no matter how much we worry and or think on them, we can not change one thing that has happened in our past.
In saying this, I am not saying don't ever go back and see what you can find out about a birthmother or father, I'm just saying, please don't let the things of the past destroy you life. I think if a person wants to try and find out things about birthmother and birthfather is a good thing.
For I know of the empty spots that be inside of us from not knowing our birthparents, plus the feeling of being rejected, I suppose cuts the deepest wounds within us.
As for me I found my help in my faith in God and how He takes care of those who love Him, Romans 8:28. And that is my suggestion, look to God for help, He has been much help to me.
Which for me, there is no way of going back and finding my mother, for she did die, but as for my birthfather I never had a longing to meet him. When he took my brother, my sister, and me and placed us in that orphan home after that tragic event I just have never once wanted to meet him nor cared little about gaining knowledge about him.
In the 90's I did gain knowledge about him, but I found that throwing his children away went right along with the kind of person he was. He lived for self, lived for what he wanted to do, and made sure that nothing got in his way of doing those things he loved to do.
I found this out from was many family members who I met in the 90's. Now it was nice meeting all of them, it did feel in empty places that were within me.
I even met one of my birthfathers sisters, and she was a joy to meet, but she was nothing like my birthfather, in fact she had raised my birthfathers youngest son by his first marriage. For you see when his first wife died, he threw the 5 children born of that marriage away, the youngest being 6 months of age.
She did not speak very highly of her brother, my birthfather, but rightly did not want to talk of him much, but did speak of her other 2 brothers who were nothing like by birthfather.
So if you want to find out about your past, go for it. But please don't let it ruin your happiness during the present time. I know the hurt and pain that can be inside of us, but we should not let it rule our life, for there is just no way we can change what has happened, but we can go forth and make sure we never do things to hurt our children as we have been hurt. That was the though I had when I first looked in the eyes of my daughter on March 22, 1970. That my daughter would have a father who would always love her, be there for her, and never hurt her as my birthfather hurt me.
At 58 years of age, I can say that God can take the things that happened in our past and work them out for our own good, if we will only put our faith in Him and let Him do do.
May God Bless,
Jerry
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