Don't Worry About Things You Cannot Change

I believe, life is too short to worry about things you cannot change, I really believe that is good advice for those who have been given away by their mother at birth and or like me was put in an orphan home by my father at about 20 months of age after mother, sister, and a brother perished in a house fire.

No doubt such things as these does have a big effect on us and it can be hard to come to terms with.

But it is a fact, no matter how much we worry and or think on them, we can not change one thing that has happened in our past.

In saying this, I am not saying don't ever go back and see what you can find out about a birthmother or father, I'm just saying, please don't let the things of the past destroy you life. I think if a person wants to try and find out things about birthmother and birthfather is a good thing.

For I know of the empty spots that be inside of us from not knowing our birthparents, plus the feeling of being rejected, I suppose cuts the deepest wounds within us.

As for me I found my help in my faith in God and how He takes care of those who love Him, Romans 8:28. And that is my suggestion, look to God for help, He has been much help to me.

Which for me, there is no way of going back and finding my mother, for she did die, but as for my birthfather I never had a longing to meet him. When he took my brother, my sister, and me and placed us in that orphan home after that tragic event I just have never once wanted to meet him nor cared little about gaining knowledge about him.

In the 90's I did gain knowledge about him, but I found that throwing his children away went right along with the kind of person he was. He lived for self, lived for what he wanted to do, and made sure that nothing got in his way of doing those things he loved to do.

I found this out from was many family members who I met in the 90's. Now it was nice meeting all of them, it did feel in empty places that were within me.

I even met one of my birthfathers sisters, and she was a joy to meet, but she was nothing like my birthfather, in fact she had raised my birthfathers youngest son by his first marriage. For you see when his first wife died, he threw the 5 children born of that marriage away, the youngest being 6 months of age.

She did not speak very highly of her brother, my birthfather, but rightly did not want to talk of him much, but did speak of her other 2 brothers who were nothing like by birthfather.

So if you want to find out about your past, go for it. But please don't let it ruin your happiness during the present time. I know the hurt and pain that can be inside of us, but we should not let it rule our life, for there is just no way we can change what has happened, but we can go forth and make sure we never do things to hurt our children as we have been hurt. That was the though I had when I first looked in the eyes of my daughter on March 22, 1970. That my daughter would have a father who would always love her, be there for her, and never hurt her as my birthfather hurt me.

At 58 years of age, I can say that God can take the things that happened in our past and work them out for our own good, if we will only put our faith in Him and let Him do do.
May God Bless,
Jerry

Why Can't All Of Us In America Be More Like This?

At a fundraising dinner for a school that serves learning disabled children, the father of one of the students delivered a speech that would never be forgotten by all who attended.

After extolling the school and its dedicated staff, he offered a question.

"When not interfered with by outside influences, everything nature does is done with perfection. Yet my son, Shay, cannot learn things as other children do. He cannot understand things as other children do. Where is the natural order of things in my son?"

The audience was stilled by the query.
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The father continued. "I believe, that when a child like Shay comes into the world, an opportunity to realize true human nature presents itself, and it comes, in the way other people treat that child."

Then he told the following story: Shay and his father had walked past a park where some boys Shay knew were playing baseball.

Shay asked, "Do you think they'll let me play?"

Shay's father knew that most of the boys would not want someone like Shay on their team, but the father also understood that if his son were allowed to play, it would give him a much-needed sense of belonging. Shay's father approached one of the boys on the field and asked if Shay could play.

The boy looked around for guidance and, getting none, he took matters into his own hands and said, "We're losing by six runs and the game is in the eighth inning. I guess he can be on our team and we'll try to put him in to bat in the ninth inning."

In the bottom of the eig hth inni! ng, Shay's team scored a few runs but was still behind by three.

In the top of the ninth inning, Shay put on a glove and played in the outfield.

Even though no hits came his way, he was obviously ecstatic just to be in the game and on the field, grinning from ear to ear as his father waved to him from the stands.

In the bottom of the ninth inning, Shay's team scored again. Now, with two outs and the bases loaded, the potential winning run was on base, and Shay was scheduled to be next at bat.

At this juncture, let Shay bat and give away their chance to win the game?

Surprisingly, Shay was given the bat. Everyone knew that a hit was all but impossible 'cause Shay didn't even know how to hold the bat properly, much less connect with the ball.

However, as Shay stepped up to the plate, the pitcher moved in a few steps to lob the ball in softly so Shay could at least be able to make contact.

The first pitch came an d Shay swung clumsily and missed. The pitcher again took a few steps forward to toss the ball softly towards Shay.

As the pitch came in, Shay swung at the ball and hit a slow ground ball right back to the pitcher.

The pitcher picked up the soft grounder and could have easily thrown the ball to the first baseman. Shay would have been out and that would have been the end of the game.

Instead, the pitcher took the ball and turned and threw the ball on a high arc to right field, far beyond the reach of the first baseman.

Everyone started yelling, "Shay, run to first! Run to first!"

Never in his life had Shay ever made it to first base. H e scampered down the ! baseline, wide-eyed and startled.

Everyone yelled, "Run to second, run to second!"

By the time Shay rounded first base, the right fielder had the ball.

He could have thrown the ball to the second-baseman for the tag, but he understood the pitcher's intentions and intentionally threw the ball high and far over the third-baseman's head.

Shay ran toward second base as the runners ahead of him deliriously circled the bases toward home.

Shay reached second base, the opposing shortstop ran to him, turned him in the direction of third base, and shouted, "Run to third!"

As Shay rounded third, the boys from both teams were screaming, "Shay, run home!"

Shay ran to home, stepped on the plate, and was cheered as the hero who hit the "grand slam" and won the game for his team.

"That day," said the father softly with tears now rolling down his face, "the boys from both teams helped bring a piece of true love and humanity into this world."

I hope this will make many have 2nd thoughts. We grown ups ought to get a big lesson from this.

May God Bless,
Jerry

What Makes Us Who We Are

To be honest I have had that thought many times in my life, I suppose because of what happened in my life at 20 months of age.

What would I have been, where would I be now, if my mother, brother, and sister had not died in that house fire back in 1948, and or my father had not put my brother, sister, and myself in an orphan home.? We have no answer for that.

If it had not happened them I would probably not be married to my wife Linda, nor have a daughter Jerri Lynn, nor the 2 grandsons.

But, I know the answer, its in the bible. Yes I know, many do not believe there is a God. They would label all things as fate.

But I have know the answer to this for many years, Romans 8:28 tells the story, God Worked out things for my good.

"And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose." Romans 8:28 (KJV)

And He will do the same for you, if you will let Him. But the greatest thing He can do for one is to save their soul from spending eternity in hell.

But you may be one of those who say, I'm a very good person, I do many wonderful deeds. In fact I live a much better life than my neighbor who is a Christian.

But remember this, a person is sent to hell only because the do not have Jesus as their Savior, not because of how good they are, how much better than someone else they are, nor because of how bad they are, its simply because the refuse the free gift God offers them.

"He that believeth on him is not condemned: but he that believeth not is condemned already, because he hath not believed in the name of the only begotten Son of God."
John 3:18

"He that believeth on the Son hath everlasting life: and he that believeth not the Son shall not see life; but the wrath of God abideth on him."
John 3:36

Yes, those who are condemned, are condemned because they have not believe on the name of the only begotten Son, Jesus.

If you have not accepted Jesus as your Savior, I hope that you will consider what He can do for you.

God can do many wonderful things for you, but the greatest is thru His Son you can have the promise of life eternal in heaven right now.

"For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life."
John 3:16

May God Bless,
Jerry

Thought From Reading a Few Blogs

I'm right new to blogging, know very little about it. When I started this blog I did not know exactly where it would go. From time to time though I want to write about my early life and the tragic happenings in my early life. But now I feel compelled to think about my Savior. From reading several blogs, it seems to many people are worried over things of this world, and never mention Christ. "Jesus said unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh to the Father, but by me," John 14:6, and the only way to the Father is thru Christ and they seem to ignore Him.

They are all different kind of troubles, one says his web sited doesn't load fast enough.

Another one is worried about whose blog is linked to theirs, I suppose they fear it will not be worthy of being linked to their blog.

Another one is worried that they will not get enough visitors and wants to be sure they have links well placed were people can find their blog.

Few seem to be worried about what happens at the end of this life, and that just might be the most important thing in their life. Well, if there is a heaven and there is a hell it will be extremely important, for they will go to one or the other.

If there is no hell nor heaven them its not worth one though. And that comes back to my point, everyone got some kind of trouble they are trying to figure out and its about things of this world.

They seem to be getting quite a bit of attention, but they are wanting even more, is it because, "They are of the world: therefore speak they of the world, and the world heareth them," 1 John 4:5.

That has to be it, they are of the world and the world heareth them.

If they were real overcomers of the world, maybe the things of the world would not mean so much to them. now why would I think that? "Ye are of God, little children, and have overcome them: because greater is he that is in you, than he that is in the world."

That is why they have so many small things bothering them, they are not worried about what comes at the end of this life.

Our Creator says they are a heaven and a hell. He has also told us that He has unconditional love for us, Romans 5:8. But they are some conditions that have to be met for us to escape life eternal in hell. Only those who have believed upon the name of Jesus will see heaven, those who do not will be condemned forever in hell, John 3:18.

But how about you, have you thought about what will take place when your life ends, are maybe you have been to busy with the small things in life to think about this. But now is the time to take care of this matter, for tomorrow may well be to late, for life can end at any moment. Them its to late to chose Jesus.

May God Bless,
Jerry

Something To Ponder

Sometimes a persons happiness is determined by the things they don't do.

I read that though sometime back. After thinking about it, I believe it is true in everyone's life.

I know a couple of husbands who are very unhappy, because they cheated on their wonderful wife, now they have no family.

The person who chooses not to get drunk, perhaps if he had, it would have robbed him or her of all their happiness, for they may have gotten behind the wheel of their car, drove on to the highway, them had a head on collision killing a young mother and their child, that will rob ones happiness.

A good guide line to follow, is if God says not to do it, don't do it. Walking with God will lead to total happiness, that will come when we all get to heaven, the promise one can have only thru Jesus Christ.

May the Lord Bless,
Jerry

Truth Is Always Right

Seems many adoptive parents do not want to tell the child the truth, but to wait till they get old enough to understand. I feel that is a very bad mistake.
I want to write about an example, but this does no right concern adoptions, but I believe it applies to it.
A husband and wife I know, their daughter had a child at an early age. They did not believe in abortion, which I think is great so they handle it like this.
The mother and father took this child, a boy, and raised him as their own, never telling him the truth of things.
The things is, everyone that lives around these part knew, except for him.
So he find out when he is going to get married, because that was the first time he had saw his birth certificate.
For many months he would not talk to the man and woman who he called father and mother, nor would he speak to his birth mother who he was raise to believe to be his sister.
That has been several years ago, but he is still not on very good terms with his family. The closeness that had been there seems to be forever gone.
This man and woman who chose to raise this boy up in a lie, was the woman who I called mother 1st cousin, so I know several details about this.
They were many you warned them, and told them to tell this young boy the truth, but they would not, but said we will tell him when he gets old enough to understand, that day never came, and now that whole family is paying for not telling the truth.
No doubt, the truth is always right.
May God Bless,
Jerry

Birth Defect

One thing about not knowing ones family, is you know nothing about medical history. I know none of my family's medical history except for my sister who grew up with.

In 2001 after having had much trouble and 2 neck surgeries I find out I have a birth defect in my head called Chiari Malformation, which is fairy rare.

It force me to go on SSD, for it, and other problems in my head and neck causes me much trouble. In fact it has left me in constant pain, which is not welcome at all. But it is something one has to deal with.

But it has left me to where they are many things I should not do, but sometime I will go ahead and do them, them for the next few days I pay for it.

In fact right now I am paying for having done something, for it has left quite a pain in the back of my head, hopefully in a day or 2 it will go away, if not I suppose it will be back to the doctor.

So maybe in a day or 2 I will feel a bit better and get back to what is normal for me and I can think a bit and write something else about my life without mother.

If I had 1 wish, it would be to know what it felt like to get a hug from my mother. Thru no fault of hers I do not know what that would be like.

I am right proud of her, for she gave her life trying to save her child, so I know my mother loved her children with all of her heart, she proved it when she turned to go back into that burning house to get Bobby Dean. How I wish that Betty sue had not run back in after her, but I feel she thought that was the thing to do.

My sister Dixie had me in one arm, Betty Sue's hand in the other, but she broke loose and ran after the mother she loved so much and I feel sure she was scared out of her mind.

I can never imagine the thoughts that went thru Dixie's mind as she stood there holding me, watching the house burn and mother screaming.

I don't know if she was screaming from the fire, or trying to tell those 2 children to run.

What ever it was, I feel that sound never will leave Dixie's mind that she heard that evening.

But thanks to Dixie I was safe from that fire that day and I am very thankful we got to grow up together, so many who go into a orphan home do not.

God has really been good to me. I hope you share your life with God and His Son Jesus.
May God Bless,
Jerry